Parents in India...this one's for you :)

Very recently my dad told me how one of his friends wanted to meet me, desperately :s Apparently their kid is going the unconventional education way ( neither engineering nor medicine :P) and he is worried about his future. Knowing my choice of unconventional career path, I was thought of some help.

This squared down to me thinking, what could I suggest him, when he finally gets to meet me. Ample things I could tell him about various unconventional career choices, following-your-heart success stories; but the point was, will it make any sense to a worried father who desperately wanted the kid to succeed.

Somehow there was only one thing I could bottom line, which was, let the kid do whatever he likes to do. Let him follow his heart. The only greatest thing a parent could do for the kid was to show their full support, in the kids’ decisions and choices. Only when you make them believe that they can be successful at whatever they choose, you give them wings. There was no other way.

A friend who happens to be a pilot once shared with me: "I never knew flying was my passion Pallavi" I asked, then what made you choose this profession?

My mind was blown with his answer. He told me how his father observed his brilliance at driving cars and taking instructions and thought he would make an excellent driver a.k.a a pilot ;) No wonder his dad's observations were very correct. Visionary genius I call him. To be able to see through your kids heart & passions. Probably, you want to do that with your kid too? Instead of forcing them the conventional ways which you think would guarantee success!

And most importantly remember your kid is not your old age investment plan or a pseudo improvised version of you. They are their own individuals. Trust me, if they ain't happy, you ain't getting anywhere anyway!:)

p.s: I always thank God for the coolest parents ever!

Trolling.. a new religion on Internet

Like many of my posts, this one too has been on my mind for a very very long time.

Its the new adventure sports I observe around specially on the social media like Facebook, Twitter, Secret et al, its called Trolling. Supposedly considered to be for the elites, better cookie points for better trolls. More likes and shares for darker deeper sarcasm, making the troller a demi God amongst their circles. The trollers creative juices improve by the passing days and they become parasitic feeding on your silent likes and shares. These parasites derive some deep satiation in bringing people down. Like feeding on others literally!

I somehow always found myself really out of the place in any forum where I saw trolling being the mainstream. And I comfortably gave blind eye to all these trolls and minded my own way for better, quietly.

But recently something made me think and feel really hard. Got to know from a friend of friend that she felt terrible about the casual remarks people make about her on a friends chat group. Although I was on the same group but I never actively rose my voice against it and became a part of the herd passively. It started from simple little humor and went upto personal remarks.

I feel nauseated seeing people pull down people in the name of trolling. Even when they know the recipient is not enjoying being the butt of their jokes. What kinda joy does one get by hurting, insulting, making fun or making personal remarks on anyone known and even worse unknown people on the social media? Trolling is pretty much accepted and considered cool these days,funnier your troll the cooler you are.
From individuals to corporates (refering to Flipkart's recent #BigBillionDay) to celebrities too these days ( Alia Bhat per se, common she is just 21, what were you at 21? Get a life? ) Cynical and sadist such trollers sound to me.

By the way, here is how wiki defines Trolling "a troll (/ˈtroʊl/, /ˈtrɒl/) is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people,^[1] by posting inflammatory,^[2] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response^[3] or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.^[4]" 

What kind of human one is?  Doesn't one has anything better to do in life? Are you a parasite? If yes, like seriously? Maybe use your creative energy somewhere better?

Raise your voice. Maybe that friend or acquaintance you always bully/ see getting bullied is silently developing trauma (quite probable!) Also, by hit and trial, I learnt, funny things are funny only when they are happening to others. Make trollers taste their own medicine ;) 

Suicide..is it worth it?

Okay. I have been wanting to write about this from a really long time now. But something really serious happened recently. It made me come here and talk instantly.

A close friend tried to commit suicide last night. Thankfully she is safe and recovering. I feel nauseated and really sick in my stomach thinking about what if's.

My dears, i know, sometimes it gets really tough to pull through the journey and there seems no hope at the end of the tunnel, whatsoever. I know how difficult are those times when you do the self talk. How you feel as if the whole world is against you.

Trust me its just a matter of a phase, which eventually passes, always.

Just hold on, hang in there. Your life is much much more precious than whatever is bothering you. Your problem is not more powerful than you are. What if a relationship didn't workout or your job sucks or you have family issues. Its not the end of the world. Nothing is. You gotta wake up and try harder next day. Maybe talk with a friend? Or anyone random? Or maybe go out and hug a stranger? Or maybe reach me? Its tough I know but that's not the end of it. Quitting is probably always easy, but you have got a beautiful life, why would you? Why waste it because of things which trouble you so much. And I'm sure those people/ things/ circumstances which forced you till here are totally not worth your life. Is that guy/ girl who broke your heart, cheated on you worth it? Or your difficult boss or inlaws worth it? I am sure no one is worth it. You are precious more than you know.

Please don't loose hope. Trust me it all falls in place. Look harder. Try harder. And believe me you always will have a way. Maybe all you need is a hug which you don't know about. I know its a lot easier said than done. But its not impossible.

If you cant count even a single person who loves you or cares for you or would miss you after you are gone. Gimme a shout, speak with me. I am around. But please try once more? Because you are precious.

Wherever you are and reading this. Sending you a big bear hug. Hold on.

Ps: I lost a very close friend many years back. He couldn't get over a broken relationship and decided to quit. Trust me it still haunts me after 10 years. Is that how you would want anyone to remember you? Really? Look inside once again.

26 things I learnt at 26 :D

     These are the things I have learnt from personal experiences and now truly deeply believe.This note is primarily for myself to come back to as a reference point. Things I kinda always knew but now know a lot better because of my ongoing personal development break ;)

So here are the things I want myself to remember for my life. Like always!

1.      You are what you think you are. Your life is a manifestation of your own thoughts.
2.     Be grateful and thankful for all the good things you have.
3.     Law of attraction works big time: you attract to you what you think. Thoughts become things. Both good and bad.
4.    You make your own destiny. You are your choices. Your thoughts make you. Think POSITIVE
5.     Believe J. You are magic!
6.    Also, be good, do good. You pay it forward, mostly.
7.     Never miss a chance to help anyone in need. Be nice but don’t be an idiot and get yourself hurt, be nice and smart ;-)
8.     The more I have given the more I have gotten. ALWAYS.
9.    Love fiercely. Never miss an opportunity to let your loved ones know that they mean the world to you.
10. The world is full of people. People, who will make you positive, people who will drain you out. Choose your people, much wisely.
11.   Never let anyone ever tell you that you can’t do something, not even YOURSELF.
12.  YOUR MIND IS YOUR BIGGEST POWER. Use it constructively. The mind should not master you, you should.
13.  Do what you have to do. Let the opinion of people not stop you.
14. Only if you are happy you can make others around you happy. It’s a vicious cycle. Begin with yourself first!
15.  Never settle for anything less than what you deserve!!
16. Negativity is a drug. Don’t indulge much!
17.  It takes 21 days to make a habit, make wise choices!!!
18.  Goodness is the ONLY religion. If I can’t be a good human being nothing I believe makes any difference to anyone.
19. Hug often, it’s the best therapy. xx. ^_^
20. What doesn't kill you definitely makes you stronger
21. The only person in your full control is you yourself!
22. People would treat you many ways, good and not so good. It doesn't tell much about you but a lot about them.
23. Life is short. Just do what makes you happy.
24. Never take anyone’s shit. It’s never worth it. Never. Period. So speak up.
25. Never ignore family; they are the only ones who would ALWAYS be by your side.
26. Life is not about being serious J let the kid in you never rest J